Marriage and intimate relationships are never perfect.
But when a cycle of hurt, anger, blame and loneliness takes over, the partnership becomes an unstable and emotional roller-coaster. Both of you find yourselves often feeling resentful. An emotional distance becomes the “new normal.” At best the relationship feels neutral. At worst, it feels like abandonment.
Have you found yourself thinking:
- “They don’t love me, they don’t even like me”
- “They never listen, they never understand”
- “How can they be so selfish?”
- “This marriage is over, why even try?”
The slippery slope to a rough marriage or partnership usually doesn’t happen overnight. It might even include wrong and hurtful behavior, like affairs or lying.
The question is then what do you choose? Do you continue to live in this cycle of pain, hurt and misunderstanding?
Or do you choose to do something to make things better? Do you choose to turn toward each other? To feel connected, safe, trusting and loved again.
Most importantly…Do you know how?
Getting Better in Couples Counseling
I believe that love and connection are as key to life as air, food and water. Love gives emotional safety and emotional shelter. Humans are wired for connetion. It’s presence makes life truly good, and you both deserve that experience.
My training is based on this. And at our first session, I’ll help you address your goals and sort out how you feel about making your relationship good again.
If you choose to make things better, I’ll start by listening to you both intently, to get a deep understanding of your feelings and beliefs, and to make sure you both feel respected.
I will then guide you with proven methods to get past the habits that feed the cycle of hurt feelings and bad behaviors.
With the decision to make things better, we will collaborate to:
- Decide what you need and want from your relationship
- Untangle the confusing knot of thoughts, feelings and behaviors that have made things so hard
- Break the cycle of negativity that tears at your connection
- Create new space for love, where you share and hear needs for closeness, trust and support
- Solve and address problems that typically seemed too difficult or unsolvable
Choosing Love
If you are ready to try for greater happiness, connection and peace in your intimate relationship, I invite you to call me at 914-768-3740, or contact me through this site. You can also click here to read reviews of my work.
